Loss

The very thought of loss is painful. No matter the type of loss, everyone has a grieving period. The length of the grieving period is different for everyone and everyone has the right to take as much time as they need to cope with the loss. The best thing anyone who is grieving can do is give it time. There is no rush. 

The type of loss will certainly impact ones grieving period. A violent death of a loved one is one of the most, if not the most, difficult to deal with. The death of a loved one by old age may not hurt to the same degree. With that being said, there is no discounting the pain of any loss. No one can tell someone how to grieve or how much pain they should or should not feel. It is in the individual's heart. If the loss was of someone who was ill, knowing that they are no longer in pain can speak volumes. In the end, the beauty of it is that the loved one who is lost is celebrated. Their memory lives on. For anyone who is spiritual, they may feel the spirit of their loved one. They will grow to be comforted in knowing that their loved one is still with them. 

It is okay to want to be alone, but it is therapeutic to be with others. As with everything, balance is key when dealing with loss as well. Spend a day or a week alone, whatever you need, but make time to be with others. You don't have to be the life of the party. You don't have to say much. Just allow yourself to be with others.

Do not be afraid or ashamed to ask for help. Do not be discouraged. You are not alone. You can cry on a friends shoulder. Grief is not weakness. It is okay to be vulnerable and let your emotions out in a healthy way.

If you feel like you can't talk to friends or family, there is professional help available. Sometimes, talking to a stranger is easier than friends and family. The point is to get the help you need. Again, it is okay. Asking for help is not a sign of weakness. It is a trait of one who is grieving.